In this video presentation in the Yoruba language, Yetunde Ola Ibitoye describes who a friend is. She highlights different types of friends, and why some friendships are excellent or good, while others are to be feared.
According to Dictionary.com “The definition of friendship is a relationship between people who like each other and enjoy each other’s company. An example of friendship is when you have a buddy with whom you like to do things”
Aristotle figured there were three kinds of friendships:
- Friendships of utility: exist between you and someone who is useful to you in some way. …
- Friendships of pleasure: exist between you and those whose company you enjoy. …
- Friendships of the good: are based on mutual respect and admiration. According to a post on Friendships in Mariclaire.com
According to Betterhelp.com “The definition of a true friend is someone who has your back, no matter what. They watch out for you and ensure you are not in danger. They will never purposely lead you into making decisions that aren’t good for you. A true friend will always have your best interest at heart.”
But, we all know that this is not always the case.. Some friendships are so toxic that you are better off, and even safer, with known enemies. The logic being that, with enemies, you already know what to expect.
Fake friends are dangerous. They can get upset at the slightest “provocation”, and like tornado, they can send your life into a spin of unending struggles, because of toxic jealousy.
These types of friends will be so quick to accuse you of the very emotions or characters that they themselves feel towards you. They will call you names without batting eyelids. These types don’t really want you to be who you are. They want you in their little back pockets to the point where you begin to feel that there is a motive behind everything they claim to do for you.
The message from Evangelist Yetunde Ola Ibitoye is to choose your friends with care and prayer.